In many respects, 2008 has been a strange year for me, so it’s appropriate that it should close with a mystery. There are people out there to whom Lynn Grabhorn’s death is not a mystery, but they’re remaining silent, at least as far as the Internet is concerned. Let me explain.
A few years ago my friend, Conni Laine, gave me a book called Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting, which has the subtitle, the astonishing power of feelings. It was written by Lynn Grabhorn. On this, the final day of the year, I woke up at around 5:00 AM feeling concerned about money. (Who isn’t these days)? When my inner worrywart shows up, I often reach for Lynn’s book. There’s something reassuring about her contention that we can manifest anything we want in our lives through the Law of Attraction. Many people have written about the LOA, which is something you either believe in or dismiss as hokum. I’ve always liked the idea and have chosen to believe in it.
Lynn Grabhorn believed that we can attract whatever we want, not by thinking about it, but by getting deep into how it would actually feel to have it. We are all a form of energy that connects us to the universe. When we experience positive feelings, we vibrate at a high frequency level, as opposed to a low frequency level which is negative. We then send out electromagnetic waves that connect with like waves of energy and come back to us. In other words, we become walking magnets. So, if we focus on what we want, instead of dwelling on what we don’t want, we’ll attract those wants into our lives. Unfortunately, it works the same way with things we don’t want.
Although I loved Lynn’s book, I had never bothered to find out anything about her life or to read anything else she’d written. I immediately began to feel better after reading the book again. So much better that I decided to go to her website and find out more about her. When I typed her URL into my browser, the site that came up surprised me. I was at LynnGrabhorn.com, but it seemed to be some kind of psychic site that provided links to lots of other websites, spiritual and non-spiritual. I checked out the site and followed links to various blogs and discovered that that Lynn had died in 2004 in her early seventies. Not only that, but there were persistent rumors that she had died through an assisted suicide.
I immediately began to research Lynn’s death, but could find very few hard facts about it. More than one blogger maintained that she had cancer and had flown to Europe, probably Holland, where Dutch doctors assisted her suicide. I was shocked and I’m ashamed to say that my first thought was that her death called her work into question. How could I share her beliefs about attracting good things into your life if she died a painful death or committed suicide? Then I dug further and found that all references to her death that emanated from Olympia, WA, where she lived, maintained that she died in her home from an unnamed illness. Another website opined that she had a painful disease that doctors couldn’t diagnose properly. Some said it showed the same symptoms as diabetes, but that she didn’t have that particular disease. Most people seem to believe it was cancer.
I also discovered that Lynn had written other books. Her first was published back in 1999 and was called Beyond the Twelve Steps, so it seems as if she may have had problems with alcohol. After Excuse Me and the Playbook that followed it, Lynn published two more books. The first was called Dear God! What’s Happening to Us? Not an encouraging title for someone impressed by her humorous, upbeat writing style in Excuse Me. Reader reviews on Amazon all agreed on one thing: This was the dark side of Lynn Grabhorn. I haven’t yet read the book, so I can’t comment objectively.
The last book was called Planet Two: Earth in a Higher Dimension…Are You Ready? Again, I haven’t read this book, but I gather that Lynn believed that heaven is actually a duplicate Earth on a higher dimension, where we get to choose exactly how we live. Neither of these two books sound like they were written by the breezy, irreverent author who wrote the book thousands of people have found so enlightening.
There have been allegations that Lynn plagiarized the work of Jerry and Esther Hicks, who have written extensively about the Law of Attraction. I choose not to see Lynn’s interpretations as plagiarism. In her introduction to the book, she openly acknowledges the Hicks’ work. She writes, “… in my own prosaic words and style I’ve reissued here the profoundly simple teachings from the Hicks family in Texas, spiced it with my own angles and buzzwords, my own observations and experiences over the past years, and blended it together with my years of study.” That doesn’t sound like a plagiarist to me.
So here’s the mystery: What happened to Lynn that made her turn to her darker side and develop beliefs that even she admitted sounded crazy? And how and where did she die? Someone out there knows the answers to those questions and I hope to hear from them one day.
Did Lynn’s death invalidate her work? In my opinion, absolutely not. On my website, you’ll find four books that I wrote with the intention of helping people to get more out of their lives. Although I believe passionately in everything I’ve written, there are times when I still struggle to apply all the content of those books to my own life. It’s like a doctor who treats patients with tobacco related illnesses, but still smokes a pack of cigarettes a day himself. Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting has helped thousands of people to imporve their lives and I believe it shouldn’t be devalued by what subsequently happened to the author. I urge you to check out this fascinating book and make up your own minds.
Hello All! I believe very strongly that we can and do attract things into our lives based on how we speak, think, feel and live. I do not dismiss the teachings of the Law of Attraction, I only say God is the creator of the universe. There are certain laws and principles that work in the earth, He made it that way. I believe we only get in trouble when we adopt a “belief system” and embrace doctrines that edge Him out as being Supreme!
As a minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ and believer in God, Jesus and Holy Spirit I have read Lynn’s book, first in 2001 and recently picked it up again, which prompted me to search her name and came across this blog site….so glad I found it.
I respect Lynn’s writing I don’t personally have much of an opion about the end of her life because until about an hour ago I had no idea she had passed on. I honestly do not believe that her life or life style should dismiss her writings in “Excuse Me….”. Many gospel preachers have knowledge and preach/teach strong gospel messages that change the lives of others but they lack the wisdom to apply the message to their own lives….it doesn’t dismiss the preached word.
One of my Christian disciplines is “daily morning devotion” a time where I pray, read and contemplate the scriptures in the bible, simply talk to God about my life, give thanks for my life and speak aloud my expectations for a wonderful and productive day; I’ve done this for many years and upon re-reading “Excuse Me” I found that Lynn talks about the same daily disciplines however she called them “prescripting & switch-flipping…” or something to that nature.
The point is there will always be people who discover a law & principle that has been a part of the way God created the earth and write about their findings and how this “next new thing” has changed their life. It’s not new and it’s not a “Secret” it’s God all God, He deserves the glory for all that is in the earth every principle every law EVERYTHING. When I find writings such as “Excuse Me” I find there’s some times information added or deleted as it relates to the nature & character of God, I choose not to “throw the baby out with the bath water…” I use the “delete button” in my mind to dismiss the portion that doesn’t line up with God and the Gospel of Jesus and keep the principles.
If Lynn did or did not believe in God is not the issue for me, most of the information in the book is valid and it lines up with the word of God as it is written in Holy Bible, just packaged as something else.
Minister J
I believe Lynn’s work is great for people as a primer for getting a hold of your emotional/vibrational control, but one of the biggest flaws I’ve seen in the LOA works is it’s lack for more introspection of the individual and the inherent paradoxes of conscious creation. The biggest one is that the eager wanting and affirming of something puts you in the reality of not having it – any effort or affirming w/attendant desire means one is inhabiting the reality system that the desired thing is not manifest. If practice is to be truly effective, the “desire” must be turned into a “memory”, since you don’t try to have what you already have. There are fine points of discerning between believing what you want is real and trying to convince yourself it’s real when you know it’s not and “trying to make manifest”. Another point is the tendency for people to be stuck on a specific outcome and not let the universe do it’s job. We get so stuck in our will and ego that we forget that we’re not the ones that willed ourselves into existence and we don’t create anything at all – we just choose routes and systems of already present circumstances. This is not victimization – just a realization that we “can control our breath but realize we don’t create the air” so to speak. The realization of this usually evolves into a willingness to have something that the universe can sort out for us, in whatever way that may come to us. The humility to know that everything happens for many many reasons is also paramount – without the knowledge that an event takes many intersections of of people place and things, we become sealed off megalomaniacs without the proper growth in consciousness to consider the greater picture of things and people/events. Anybody that contemplates the evolution of our species, no, just the sequence of events for our parents to even meet understands the necessity to give ourselves to a higher organizing intelligence greater than our own. The paradox of this is – the more you let go of your individual will and align yourself with the greater by tempering your ego, your so called “personal” strength is multiplied by untold powers, but at this point, you don’t recognize it as personal. Finally, the last thing I’d like to point out is people almost never ask if they’re willing to live up to what they want. Want the body of an olympic athlete? Sure, but are you willing to train and suffer as one does? Do you want a great life partner but unwilling to be as great as your own expectations of the person? I guess what I’m trying to say is that you have to live up to your desires – they want something in exchange. Every reality also asks that the person inhabiting the new reality to live up to it.
Zero Kazama,
Thanks for a thought-provoking contribution. You make some excellent points about the reality of making the Law of Attraction work, and I urge everyone to read them and think about them.
John
Dear John
Since I last posted a comment on this board, I have taken your kind words to heart and I have asked for guidance and signs that what I want is on its way.
Now, a major opportunity has come up for one of my wants. That is a job closer to home that pays more and something that I could be happy in. Well, guess what? I have found one!! I have submitted my CV to to agency and they said that they will get back to me. Now, my intuition and everything is telling me that this is it. I’m feeling a lot better about it but as you know sometimes there is a nagging voice in the back of your head that says “get real, this isn’t going to happen.”
John, I have come so far. This job is a major want for me. I have read Lynn’s advice in her book about getting into the feeling place of getting your want, but I want to know from you how would you go about getting this want?
Also, I wonder if you could do me a favour. Lynn’s book says that if 2 people put intense feel good into a want it will come about quicker and easier. If you have a minute, could you send some feel good vibrations out for me? I will be doing the same so hopefully there will be a vibrtional match and I can get this want realized.
Thanks again for everything.
Lisa, Liverpool
Hi Lisa,
Remind yourself that we get what we focus on with passion and excitement. Here’s what Lynn said about that:
“The universe doesn’t give a crap shoot whether we want something or don’t want something; it works strictly off of the principle we call the Law of Attraction. We send the magnetic feelings out, the universe obediently delivers. It doesn’t react to our pleas; it only responds to our vibrations, which come purely from how we’re feeling… Focus on what we want, and it will come if we don’t sabotage it.”
Stay focused on how good it would feel to have a better paying job closer to home consisting of work you will enjoy doing. Ignore that nagging voice, which is the voice of the saboteur. The last of Lynn’s four steps is “Expect, listen, and allow it to happen.” Wayne Dyer said something similar in his audio program, Manifesting Your Destiny. He said : “Declare your intent to the universe, detach yourself from the outcome, and go quietly about your business.”
You’ve already declared your intent by submitting your CV to the agency. If there’s anything else you can do to get the job, do it. Then, focus on staying with the feeling of how good it will be when it happens. If you continue to send out high frequency vibrations, it won’t even matter if you don’t get this particular job, because another opportunity will come along.
John
Dear John
Thank you for the explanation into Lynn’s death. Like many of the people on this site, I had Lynn’s book suggested to me via unusual circumstances and with it I have had the strength to follow my dreams. Times are tough but I’m getting through it. Like you, I read her book when I get a bit of a panic. I take it everywhere with me and sometimes I close my eyes and randomly I pick a page and I will always find wisdom to overcome whatever obstacle that I’m facing. I guess I’m writing in because like most of the people here, I wanted to contact her and thank her. I have to say though since I found out she died, it has knocked me for six. I have a knot in my stomach and I feel a bit afraid. Like she says in her book, this is a definite red flag. I’m trying so hard to turn it around but it’s proving difficult. I have so many wants and I feel a bit overwhelmed by them all. I guess I’m asking for help to get myself back on the right track. Any ideas, please I’d be really grateful.
Thanks!
Lisa, Liverpool
Hi Lisa,
Without knowing exactly what you’re going through, it’s hard to offer pertinent ideas. But I do know what it’s like to be thrown off track and that’s why I’m working on a new post that I hope might help people to re-group when that happens.
In the meantime, Lisa, keep the faith. What worked for you once will go on working for you if you stay focused. If you have so many wants that you feel overwhelmed, focus on the one that means the most to you right now. Then, get into the feeling of how it would be for that want to become reality. And whenever you feel yourself straying off track, do something, anything, no matter how small, that will make you feel better. Take a walk and breathe deeply. Take a long bubble bath – whatever will make you feel good. Also, use Lynn’s “flip-switch” technique to re-focus your attention on the things that are good about you.
Read the comment from Amy S – I think you’ll find it inspiring.
Hope that helps,
John
Dear john
Thank you so much for your kind words.
Right now I’m in a job that’s far away from my flat and I’m severely underpaid, in an unfulfilling relationship, in debt and I have gained weight so I’m not feeling too good.
But I was reading through Lynn’s book last night and I asked the universe with some help to feel good again and I woke up this morning feeling better. I have a smile on my face again so I think that I’m slowly getting back into it.
I’m reading Lynn’s book for the 3rd time and something has popped out at me that’s so powerful, I need to share this. The power of saying “I intend to…” found on page 105. I said a couple of the statements while waiting for the gates to be unlocked at work….”I intend on being at my target size and weight by my birthday (in October)” “I intend on getting my well paid job closer to home by July” and things like that. I felt so much better and I know in my heart that all I need will come to fruition as and when I say it.
I guess we go through low times and hard times. I don’t know what caused my down flow in energy but I’m working my way through it and your comment has made me feel better and put things into perspective.
So thank you very much again. Amy S’s comment is truly inspirational and I know that I can take from her experience to pick myself and keep on going.
Thanks again.
Lisa
Lisa,
I’m glad to have been some small help. I wish you success in getting back on your path. Let me know how it goes.
John
I just stumbled upon this website after googling Lynn’s name. I received a copy of her book in 2001 after a bad car accident left me incapacitated. I am very sorry now that i never emailed Lynn to tell her my story and how much this book helped save my life. Maybe do her memory proud and share it with all of you?
I was 25 with 3 small children and in an abusive relationship. As badly as I wanted to leave him (and tried numerous times) I always ended back with him. It was August of 2001 when i had my life-changing car accident. I sat at home, miserable and feeling sorry for myself when my mom handed me a copy of Excuse Me…. I started reading it immediately. I didn’t know how, but I was gonna Leave that man AND provide a good life for my kids. I had no car, bad credit, no job history, no skills, no education, and no help from family or friends. Two months after starting the book, I had a job, an apartment, and a new car! 12 months later, I bought my first house…with my new husband! (who, by the way, is a wonderful man!). Five years later, we are still happily married with 3 additional children. This book saved my life, whether it only gave me the confidence to do the impossible or the LOA actually are legit, I am a believer! I am very sorry to hear of Lynn’s passing, however belated, and hope she knew how much her book has helped.
Hello Amy,
While looking for more information of Lynn, I came acroos the webside of John and therefore your text contribution.
I found it remarkable – just as the book- to hear it can really happen. It is indeed very inspiring.
In case that you may get this message, I wonder if you would be so kind of giving me a few tips and hints of how you managed to achieve all this.
It seems as I tried to stay positive, and feel positive which is the most difficult part, but can’t seem to get away from the negative.
Can you somehow help me or advise of what you did?
I’m confused by where to start with my wants as I want a lot (move back into my country, buy a house in my beloved city, boyfriend/husband…ect.) of the really big things or do I have to start with the small things ( get a new job which is more fulfilling, be a good listener and have a good memory…ect.) ?
Thank you very much for your help on this.
DJ
HI DJ
If Amy does not reply, feel free to ask me the same question. I have practised the LOA for 5 yrs now having been introduced to Lyn’s book. I would be very happy to help you achieve your dreams. Its probably a lot easier than you think but you are missing something in your approach. Have you read the book PROPERLY? Are you practising the technique? It took me a month to practise before I could ‘turn it on’ when I needed it most. You also have to have something tangiable to focus on…and one thing at a time, as its really exhusting to focus and practise when your doing it properly. Feel free to get in touch if I can help further…it works..it really works (and almost scares me how much it works).
Shelley
Hi Mona and fellow Bloggers,
You make some good points and yes, one can argue Proverbs and other writings from the Bible (albeit I think we all know and understand how its inherent ambiguity has been and still is used to suit various “causes” or view-points… ie; regarding homosexuality etc…… Then there’s the contradictory: “an eye for an eye” but you also “turn the other cheek”….
So, perhaps the two beliefs can co-exist as long as we are consistent with where the “power” is coming from. To take pride (tinged with guilt if we choose to block out that it was Gods Will) in a seemingly “self made” accomplishment can be put down to “well I attracted it as I’m vibrating high”…. but, to moan that “God has abandoned me” in a time of need, or “How could this be God’s will” when something dreadful happens is not consistent with LOA.
So, how strong is a person’s belief and trust in God when they ask the question “How could God do this if he truly loved me/us/the planet” …… A true believer would never even think this question let alone utter it when the Bible/Church tells us “who are we to question God”.
For me it’s all about us taking responsibilty for ourselves and our actions and if more people on this planet did it would be a much better place. Also, us humans would all be a lot happier. Confession and hail Mary’s do not constitute taking responsibility.
Appreciation is key and if you choose to look at the sky, sun plants and birds as Gods creation or through Darwinian glasses, as long as we appreciate what we see and what we have it doesn’t matter who “made” it……. we feel grateful, we feel happy so we vibrate higher and good things happen.
Maybe LOA is simply what we choose it to be.
Hi all,
I notice there have been some “God” conversations and what Lynn’s “take” was on religion and “God”…
Am I off the track by saying that one either believes in God or one believes in LOA:…..To believe in the law of attraction … ie; that we are the creators of everything that occurs in our life, surely then makes the presence of God as the creator of what happens to us moot.
We either create our lives ourselves – good/bad/indifferent or God does…… and by abdicating responsibility of our lives to “God” we are rejecting LOA?
Perhaps this is why we create such drama and dilemma in our lives……. the two beliefs cannot co-exist.
Anyone up for a philosphical discussion?
Hello All,
I have to beg to differ with you Carla. I would argue that the LOA and God can co-exist. I am a Christian, but the LOA makes sense to me and does line up with the word of God. (At least the basic premise of it does). The Bible states that we can speak things into existence and Proverbs 4:23 states “guard your heart” meaning watch what you expose it to-site and sound. The Bible states that God said, “let there be light” and it was so. He new and FELT that if he commanded light with his words that it would come to pass. Jesus states over and over, “these things that I do, so can you”. In my opinion people (even I at times) have a hard time grasping the magnificent powerful minds that we actually have. Why is it blaspheme to take credit for the works or manifestations in our lives? We have God given power! Do we consider our children as disrespectful for not giving US credit for every successful accomplishment or achievement the obtain because they have our genetics? No we don’t and I don’t think God is any different than we are as parents. I don’t think that God is that needy for attention ALL THE TIME. God is Supreme and with that comes confidence. Confident beings don’t need to be reassured CONSTANTLY that they are loved or appreciated- THEY KNOW IT. In my opinion, God just wants us to be grateful, HUMBLE and appreciative to him and one another.
Hi John,
Lynn is one of my favorite authors of all time, and after years of reflecting, I believe it was because of her ability to communicate, rather than her message. So many before and since have said all the same things that she did, so what she said, isn’t as remarkable as the way that she was able to say it. When you read Excuse Me, it was as if she was taking you by the neck, and thrusting yourself out of your head and into your life. Her language and tone were so visceral, that you could feel her, and like you, I’m sure you felt like you knew her after reading that book.
I think that Lynn DID feel more than a lot of us are able to feel in a lifetime, and perhaps that meant feeling TOO much. I have a personal view that she needed far more interaction with people who are on that path, but that she lost her way, alone. Like so many people who “preach” a high message, it’s easy to identify with that message, it becomes a sort of high, and we lost contact with our earthly existence. Perhaps putting a combination of Tolle and Grabhorne in a bag, and then shaking it up, we’d arrive at a more workable and doable “religion”.
And therein lies the problem with Excuse Me, it’s not the religion that so many of us turn it into. It’s a tool, for recognizing what’s working in our lives, and what needs to be eliminated. And poor Lynn, was just a messenger. She was the coach we all needed, even though she may not have been able to play the game, she knew how to call the plays. Perhaps, she was grasping and lacking a coach in her own personal journey, opening her up for other “entities”? I hate to speculate on her personal end of life, because I’m also forming an opinion that we absolutely need to cultivate supportive relationships in our lives, that we can turn to, and TRUST for them to both encourage and motivate our best and higher good, but also to ground us. And this is why I find Tolle to be so healthy. It’s happening NOW, not in a future, that Lynn took of into and never returned from. It’s NOW.
I wonder how many of us remember our mothers wisdom, and the words that she would encourage us with, and yet, when we look back at her life, we understand her failings too. Usually, this happens after she’s gone, we realize she was mortal like us all. Yet, we know that she loved us better than anyone ever could. For me, Lynn was that kind of mother. She knew just how hard to push in Excuse Me, to get my attention, and then she loved me as the reader, and fully related to my weakness. She related to that weakness, not because she was strong, but because she WAS WEAK herself. Did anyone else get that about her? Excuse Me was the book or the lecture that we give ourselves, and other people read it. It’s the pep talk we give our children, that epitomizes our life’s essence, and then we walk away from that experience knowing that we just lectured ourselves.
We are mistaken to think that Lynn was teaching us. She was teaching herself, and like all good teachers, she need to be fed from clean waters and positive people around her. She needed to find her “own” people, and I dont’ believe that she ever found them HERE on this planet, and that’s what caused her to look elsewhere.
I don’t believe she abandoned her position at any time. She just knew that she wasn’t long for this world anymore, and she was ready to leave. Everything she knew about herself was to prepare for that “end” of her physical life. I believe that she achieved all that she was her to achieve, including in meeting her demons. If anything, this is a reminder to all of us, that in the “new age” to come, we need not face our demons alone, as Lynn did, but that we can reach out to each other and find comfort and support in speaking back to them, and conquering them.
My sense is that Lynn’s life is not just about the life she lived, but the life that we can all chose and live BECAUSE of her. We don’t have to succumb to the pain she manifested towards the end. But pain, and that discussion is another post, perhaps another book, the book that comes after Lynn, that she wasn’t meant to write, but that someone else is to write BECAUSE of her. She wasn’t a goddess, she wasn’t complete, she need more from us all, from her friends, and she had so much that was missing in her life, as any artist who creates, does. She was human and gifted and she touched our souls. She is immortal because of what she left of herself to us. And for that, I say, she was more successful than the majority of the population. We can only hope for that kind of success in life.
Who writes the book on what comes next? Because that book definitely needs to be written. Tolle wrote the book on how to experience it, but there’s still so much more out there to “experience”. And that’s the message of Lynn Grabhorne, and she KNEW it in her bones. And because she gave it birth, we can know it too.
becoming,
Moe
Hi John, I should be in a position to answer the question of Lynn’s demise if I can only find the email I received from Lynn’s publicist. The circumstances under which I was introduced to Lynn’s book ‘excuse me’ were, on reflection, rather odd and as it now turns out rather magical. I was on holiday (from England) with my husband and daughter. We had been considering getting divorced for several months and were in a very unhappy place. The holiday was a make or break situation..and was turning out to be a break! One morning, on the beach, when I was attemting to take a photograph of my daughter and husband we were approached by what we thought and call in England ‘a nutter’ who told us that he sensed something wrong with our family. Its a very long story which I wont bore you with but a two hour conversation ensued which left me in tears. However, he advised my husband (not me, as he considered me the devil incarnate and suggested that I was cutting off my husbands genitals!!) to read Lynn’s book. Then he disappeared without a trace! My husband dismissed it as mumbo jumbo but despite my abhorrance with this man I later found and read Lynn’s book. Again a long story, but I was competing at the hightest level (and still am) in equine sports in England. Long and short of it is that I have achieved the highest accolade know in this field not once but 4 times and am planning (thru feeling!!) to achieve it again this year. Amazing. Truly amazing. I emailed Lynn to tell her about the effect that she had had on my life (I cannot remember how on earth I found her email address??) and received one back from her publicist explaining that she had died and the circumstances of her death. She told me that Lynn would have been so happy for my experience as she too had been involved with horses and competition.
Sadly that was in 2006 and I cannot remember what this lady told me about her death. I am going to get a computer wiz kid to look at my pc and see if I can regain my old emails to try to solve the mystery. In the meantime if anyone knows who this lady was who wrote to me I am sure she can explain what she had explained to me.
As a footnote to all this, I am hoping to have an interview with the Kelly Holmes foundation based in England who tutor up and coming athletes. I have devised a theory based around the law of attraction which helped me achieve my life times ambition 4 times. I owe it to Lynn and that mystery man on the beach!
I should have said, if anyone needs verification of Lynn’s magic, if you google my name you will see that I have won the Horse of The Year Show 4 times, a unique feat. I am now writing my own account to share my experience and method with others. Badly need help from someone in publishing..anyone?? (Lynn??) Shelley Perham
I was surprised by the subject when I found this blog today…
I read “Excuse Me…” several years ago and found it intriguing to say the least. I loaned the book to a friend because her business and life had taken a turn for the worse and I thought it might help. That was over two years ago.
My friend brought the book back to me today and told me about all the other people she had given it to and how many people had enjoyed the book’s message. I had no reason to believe I would ever see that book again and had not thought about it for some time.
An hour after receiving the book another friend stopped by my office. She talked a bit about what was going on in her life right now. I listened and then told her I have a book for her to read and handed her “Excuse Me…”. She read the front and back cover, looked at a couple pages, and asked if I was serious and could she take it with her. Of course I said yes.
The book was gone for over two years but is it a mere coincidence that it should come back to me an hour before I talk to someone else who might benefit from what it says? I asked my friend who returned it why she had decided to bring it back today – her only answer was that she had done some cleaning the evening before, saw the book, and just thought that she should return it to me.
How Ms. Grabhorn’s life ended does not say anything to me about how she lived and I do not believe it takes anything away from her message. In the end we are all just human anyway.
Good message there, I too loved the book and I am re-reading it again now. I only just found out 30 minutes ago that Lynn had passed on. I also agree that it dosnt matter so much how or why, but whats important, atleast to me anyway, is her work and message that is obviously helping to uplift and inspire many thousands of people all over the world. I have done alot of reading research on the current planetary changes and 2012. My aunt in Australia, where i grew up, also told me about it in detail, and although in 1992 i was only 18, i was fasinated. I have yet to read here two other books, one of which (Dear God, whats happening to us?”) I will most likely skip past, only because I already know alot about from my aunt but also being of a darker subject I prefer to keep to more up lifting and inspieing messages. The 2nd Planet book is something I have always thought about and felt to be real. And I am currently making changes in my life to raise my love, light and my “viabration” into a higher mode.
I appriciated your comments and just wanted to tell you so!
Cheers!
Thanks for your response John. I wonder if this is the right place for this question…on second thoughts, can’t think of a better place. Would someone please enlighten me if they have any idea on Lynn’s views on God?
Did alarm bells just go off at the mention of God? Stay with me here please! All will become clear!!
The LOA theory was for me a great way to understand the awesomeness of our Creator. This book and others like it have propelled me to read and learn from the Bible and much to my surprise I found that many of the Christian teachings are so similar. Some of you reading this might balk at the idea but after much reading and listening to Christian Pastors I couldn’t help but come to that conclusion.
Now to the purpose of my God related question…. See, I would love to share this book with people that I think would benefit from it. I know a few people who think that LOA is in direct opposition to the idea of God and would love to reassure them if I possibly could. Would help if I could tell them that the author believed in God.
John, could you please recommend which one of your books I could start with…do you perhaps have a favorite?
And back to Lynn….where can we find out more about her life and possibly try and understand what she went through…in a bid to lessen the darkness that seems to shroud her passing. Also I feel so connected to her ( I guess when you read her book she kinda draws you in)and feel cheated that I don’t really know more about her life and death!
That’s all for now.
Peace and joy,
Saniya
Thanks for a great, thought-provoking post, Saniya. I suspect I might be able to answer you better when I read Lynn’s last two books. I don’t know if she believed in God as defined in the Bible, but it seems clear to me that she believed in what might be described as an afterlife. She writes about this in those last two books. I’m about to buy them and intend to write about them sometime soon. I suggest you go to Amazon.com and read everything you can find about her books, including excerpts and the reviews posted by readers.
As for my books, I would start with Unlock The Real You, for the following reasons: As I said in my last post, I don’t believe you can fully harness the Law of Attraction until you connect with your true inner self and know who you really are. You also need to know your true desires, what dreams you really want to pursue, what you truly love doing and the real goals you want to achieve in life. It’s about living authentically. I wrote Unlock The Real You to help people to determine these things through a series of 12 exercises in which you answer questions that are designed to bring clarity.
You can find out more about this book by following this link: http://www.unlocktherealyou.com/
I do believe Lynn believed in God but I dont think as most Christians I have encountered in my life believe, that God is a seperate entity. From what i have read from Lynns books I feel that she aknowledged GOD as all pure energy witch IS LOVE. And yes if you delve into the true teachings of Christianity (and all religions for that matter) all the basic laws and teaching are the same and teach Love and brillience are inate in ALL life and all connected.
Im looking forward to reading her ‘ 2nd Planet book
Thanks for your contribution, Saniya. Although she didn’t set out to do it, Lynn did create a community when she published Excuse Me.
About the ’s’ word. As far as I’ve been able to ascertain, Lynn only looked into the possibility an assisted suicide because of the terrible pain she was experiencing, but she never followed through with it.
Excuse Me literally called out to me from the book shelf while I was waiting for the salesman to find me a book for a friend. Long story short, I bought Excuse Me and the book I came for was not available!! Talk about attracting!! I fell in love with the book and all it taught and have since recommended it to many friends who also loved it! But when I found out that she might have comitted suicide I was worried about recommending it anymore. In fact, my friend who was interested in buying the book recently promptly changed her mind when she heard the ’s’ word. Which brings me to my reason for my response …. Oh boy! am I glad I happened upon your blog! First of all like Carla mentions, great to know that Lynn’s work is alive and well all over the world! I was so happy to read all the comments and feel in a sense like I am connected to all the people who have benefittd from the book. I love the way she walked you through the process of ATTRACTING…much like a friend/counseller would do….makes you want to try it! Also I perfectly understand the point you make, John regarding not always being able to follow all the principles you try and impart (in all earnestness, no doubt) to others. I do it all the time….I love learning stuff and love teaching others too….but practising….well that’s really another story…..I do try!!! Will check out you book: The path to inner peace…Sounds good! Peace and hugs….Saniya
Thank you John. Very insightful. As I am a “newbie” practioner at this (well a “now conscious” one rather) I hear you about constantly practising. It’s strange noticing the distinction now of thinking negatively versus positively.
Inner Peace is sounding good – I shall have a more detailed look at your site! I see you are a Facebook fan – as am I… We can forward the energy!
I am such a chatterbox (and do love a good conversational stoush) which is where I see I can come unstuck…. perhaps outer peace will serve me well also!!!
Anyway, my list of “happy things” is all lined up and waiting for when I need to “flip switch” and I am excited at the thought of now harnessing and directing my significant energy towards more positive pursuits.
So a big feel good hug out to you and thank you for this blog. It is nice to know I’m not alone!
Best, Carla
Thanks for your great contribution, Carla. And boy is that challenging question!
As you point out, shutting out the negative is a continual process. To me, it’s a bit like being a professional athlete. Unless you train and practice, you won’t stay at the top of your game.
As I wrote in one of my posts, I find Lynn’s “flip-switch” method helpful. I also try to practice what I call “The Power of Detachment.” Sounds anomalous, I know, but the process of detaching yourself from the maelstrom of life is a powerful way to stay centered. I go into the process in detail in my book, The Path to Inner Peace.
Through detachment, I try to stand back and become the observer of stressful, negative situations, observing what’s happening without judgment. I don’t always succeed, but I do always try.
I also use a variety of breathing exercises to induce calmness and tranquility, which I describe in detail in the same book.
It’s great to hear from someone “down under”. Stay in touch.
It seems Lynn’s work is alive and well around the world.
I write from Australia and have, after many “pick ups and put downs” finished “Excuse me”. Whilst I have been a believer in “we create” and have a life full of evidence where the “universe” has been at work both positively and negatively depending on whether I was “on” or not… I had not until now understood how to “manufacture” the “on”. I have called it my mojo or “it” factor when I meet it in others…. what a revelation that I can turn it on by feeling the things that make me smile and that I want……
So, I too decided to find out more about Lynn as I felt the need to write to her with just one pressing question… she took herself away and lived in relative isolation and struggled with “shutting out the negative”.. How do I do this minute by minute, hour by hour and day by day being a parent, a wife, a business owner, a body corporate chairman where I am constantly bombarded with the negative? John do you have any personal tips as to how you extract yourself or go into “happy land” in the middle of someone’s “whinge” !
Thank you by the way for your blog… It is nice to “meet”
other LOA practitioners!
In January of this year (2009), I discovered Lynn Grabhorn’s, book (on CD’s) at my local library. I had not heard of her, nor did I have any preconceived ideas about her work and philosophies. I, like many people my age, have been searching for answers to the universal questions about why we are here, what happens after death, is there really a God, etc. I found Grabhorn’s book to be enlightening and her (expounded upon) ideas to be very refreshing. The knowledge of her death also came as a surprise to me after I started searching for more information about her online.
I have read, and own, all three books of her trilogy – Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting, Dear God! What’s Happening to Us?, and Planet Two. If you have not read the last two books, I encourage you to do so. The only way to learn more about the author herself is to understand where she was headed through the writings in these last two publications. They are nothing like her first book, Excuse Me…
Grabhorn may have been labeled “crazy” by some after reading these last two books, but it is merely because they have not lived through the trials of emotional and physical trauma brought on by her illness. I have, and believe I can completely relate to her symphonies of change, as well as her pain. Yes, she makes mistakes in her writings (apparently missed by the editors), but I could see through all that to her message, which I believe is clear and should be a wake-up call for all of us. She has set me on a course that has given me hope and has helped to answer some of those questions that we all share.
Thanks for your thoughtful contribution, Andi. You make a good point about the emotional and physical trauma that Lynn’s illness must have inflicted. Until now, I haven’t felt ready to read Lynn’s last two books, I guess because, in some crazy way, I wanted to preserve the integrity and simplicity I saw in Excuse Me. But you’re right. The only way to get to know more about Lynn is to read those books, so I’ve added them to my “must read” list.
I agree with everything you say, Patty. I love hearing about instances of Lynn’s book finding its way to people who need it and helping to change their lives for the better. That’s all the proof I need that the way in which Lynn teaches us to jump start the Law of Attraction really does work. Thanks for the gift of your words.
She was a signpost for all who seek to find what leads them to her book in the first place…She was and is (if not back on earth already) a soul that allowed any who get it from her words to find within them the power to change on any level. She will always have words of love sent from me to her in whatever form she may be in now. Years ago when I found my way to her the flood gates of change lead me to a very productive peaceful life full of wonder new understanding….forever I will bless the book that help change me. As for her other work, well nothing has lead it to my hands so I guess its not for me to know now. Blessing to all who get it. Namaste
I understand how you feel and why you’re questioning Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting. My immediate reaction to hearing about Lynn’s illness and her contemplation of suicide, was to wonder about the veracity of Excuse Me. Since then, I’ve re-examined my faith in her philosophy and it stands firm.
I don’t have enough information to draw any hard and fast conclusions about Lynn’s life after she wrote the book, or the exact circumstances of her death. I haven’t read her last two books, but from reading reviews written by people who have, it appears she came to believe that her problems were attributable to negative forces at work in the universe. That sounds a little far out, but who knows for sure what’s true and what isn’t?
In the end, I think it comes down to personal beliefs and faith. I’ve practiced the methods Lynn expounded in Excuse Me and all I can say is that they work for me. I also know from personal experience that it’s possible to write about something in which you have a passionate belief, then struggle to apply it in your own life. So, for me personally, nothing about Lynn’s death has invalidated her work or changed my belief in the methods she advocated.
Thank you for taking the time to contribute to this blog.
How can you say that her disease, and her possible suicide does not invalidate her work? I have recently been re-reading her book and found that she believes positive thinking and feeling leads only to good things. She clearly says that if a person keeps to her philosophy for most of the time, nothing bad will happen to them including sickness. So it is logical to say that her sickness was a result of negative feeling, according to her philosophy. I have enjoyed reading Ms Grabhorn’s book very much, but I do not find it wrong to question it when the very events of her life seem to dispute it. You can say that perhaps she just didn’t practice her own philosophy, which is possible, but still, there is something here that seems not right to me.
So glad I found this and didn’t stop at the “pooh poohers”.
I too believe that there is a lot of truth in LOA. I read The Secret and accept my perspective comfortably. It’s a recycling of an ancient philosophy (or truth) with brilliant marketing tactics (including a stint on Oprah) which made a ton of money for the author(s). I took what I wanted from it and accept it for what it is.
I found Lynn Grabhorn’s book in my home library and frankly, do not remember buying it. Yet ANOTHER take on the Law of Attraction. I like her version because I enjoy her style of writing. Like you, I never heard of her or her work but decided to Google her because I liked her “take” on a theory that I’ve heard about for most of my life. I was quite taken aback to see that she had passed from cancer(the first article). It HARDLY negates the book or fundamental truths in the book. This wave of judgement about her death is reminiscent of when Linda McCartney died. The meat eaters were saying AH Ha! She was a vegetarian and got cancer! How Ridiculous! The idea that Grabhorn was a plagiarist is absurd! In fact the Authors of The Secret seemed to be presenting this as something new, a “secret” that they would grace us with… for a price. Lynn Grabhorn presented the concept with a keen sense of humour and a pleasant read. OK, then. Just wanted you to know that I appreciate knowing that not everyone is “turning” on Lynn or her work. Thanks!
Nancy
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