“I suspect that Lynn began her positive re-framing work and took it to a high degree of self development. But with the apparently disastrous turn her life took, it appears to me that she became unbalanced in her approach.

I hope this doesn’t come as a shock to anyone, but none of us are really human beings and we’re here to play a game. We are spiritual beings of tremendous power and light. And when an aspect of our consciousness comes into the human body to play the human game of life we come into a set of rules or laws by which a 3-D universe is run ruled by polarity; light and dark, good, bad, up down, in, out, etc.

Like the game of checkers, we need the ‘bad guys/criminals’ to be on the other team in order for there to be ‘good guys/cops’ team of players. Oh, and by the way, one of the rules of the game for most of us is that we want to forget our true identity as spirit beings, so that we can really believe that we’re helpless, puny little humans. Otherwise how could I get to play victim if I remembered that I’m this really powerful being?

One of the games of life Lynn was playing was the game of transformation. A great game! My most favorite! Every game has it’s ‘other side’, just like on a checker board. When we get involved with work that makes us really happy (the red squares on the checker board) that we love, etc., we also throw a ‘shadow’ effect, ie: (the black squares on the checker board). This can be seen with great athletes like Tiger Woods, incredible ministers who turn out to be involved with a very dark side in their lives that shock people because they seem so ‘good’.

We are neither good nor evil; we are spirits in human form who are powerful, whole and complete in our ‘regular’ true Identity. And we have to learn to balance and integrate the shadow side of our psyche as a human so that it doesn’t come to haunt us once we decide that we want to do something that is to the light/right/good side of the energy scale of polarity. I suspect that it’s more fun to be a bad guy, than a good guy

Here’s an example. I had a person call me having been referred by a friend who was in a ‘situation’. In my game I am Native American and do rituals and ceremonies in my own life. In my journey people have asked me to help if I can. Frequently people ask me to do what some people would call ‘revenge magic’, which is an uninformed way of trying to bring balance in their lives.

Such ideas are based on superstitious practices, etc, without a true understanding that we are dealing with a complex entity in that we are, as a human, operating on basically three levels of consciousness; subconscious lower which is like a small, but powerful child that can go berserk, conscious middle, our everyday normal self, and Super Conscious Higher.

The subconscious, lower can only get ideas through imagery, metaphors, and symbolism. Ceremony and rituals harness that power of this part of us to do as we direct.

So I told her that she needed to do this work herself, and I carefully explained the balance that she needed. I helped her outline the dramatic part of her ceremony that would honor her angry, fearful and hurt part of her psyche (to help her little kid self not go berserk) then switch to a higher frequency of love and forgiveness (for Super Conscious part). Then lovingly and gently return the balanced energy to the source that it is coming from; as in ‘return to sender—bomb neutralized to harm none and bring benevolence to all’ (When people are in a negative situation/relationships with others there are unwanted energies that are being directed their way that need to be neutralized, rendered harmless and blessed).

Since this energy isn’t your energy, but belongs to the other party, it needs to go back to it’s source. BTW, this is a great way to render harmless a stalker—works wonders!)

This ceremony will bring balance to both the shadow, will honor the higher needs, and bring blessings to all involved. Rituals, ceremonies assist us to live whole and fulfilled lives. Think of Christmas, holidays, birthday parties, all kinds of ways that people celebrate in ritual fashion. It goes back to the beginning of time.

Anyway, Lynn, I believe, was unaware of the need to address her shadow self and it came out in a very stressful and painful manner in her life. I don’t know if her entity that she was battling with was a real entity or her own self created disembodied entity such as a repressed poltergeist. I just know had she known how to do light work and balance the shadow side of her psyche things could have turned out much differently.

If this makes any sense of you or anyone else, there’s an excellent book which is small and easy to read that goes more into this called Owning Your Own Shadow by Robert A Johnson. Jungian analyst, lecturer and author.

For more insight into who we really are and how to be happy on this planet, please go to this website:
http://www.lovingthegameoflife.com/, written by my dear friend, coach, lecturer and amazing teacher, Beverly Nadler.

I hope this is helpful. Diana”

Thanks, Diana, for an intriguing and absorbing post.

Recently, my interest in their work was piqued by a You Tube audio link sent me to by Susanna. The link goes to a seminar presented by a woman talking about Esther Hicks (I don’t know who she is, because the link doesn’t name her. I’ll call her the presenter). In this seminar, the presenter responds to a question from a member of the audience about Lynn Grabhorn. The audience member wanted to know if the kind of malevolent beings that Lynn referred to in one of her last books as “the others” really exist.

During her response, the presenter says some interesting, and slightly controversial, things about Lynn. For example, she says that Lynn created Excuse Me… from a transcript of one of Esther and Jerry Hick’s audio programs. She also states that Lynn was reaching for a feeling of well being, but never really found it herself.

I don’t know if any of the statements made are accurate, but they’re certainly interesting and it could be argued that they offer a logical explanation for the feel of Lynn’s last two books. I suggest you check out the audio excerpt for yourself and make up your own mind about the veracity of what was said about Lynn and Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting. Here’s the link that Susanna sent:

http://www.youtube.com/user/YourDreamsAreWaiting#p/u/8/hiswgFmtXpg

Listen to the whole clip to hear all that was said about Lynn.

The things that people worry about usually break down into two broad categories: Things they can control and things they can’t. Let’s take the latter first. If you’re worried about something over which you have absolutely no control, your worrying has no purpose. If you can’t control a situation, what’s the point in worrying about it? That’s needless worry. It means you’re increasing your stress level and shortening your life for no reason. On the other hand, if you’re worried about something over which you do have control, you need to take the appropriate action to rectify what’s worrying you.

Here’s where it gets interesting. Even in situations where you seem to have no control, often there is something you can do. Take the economy, for example (I wish someone would take it – right now, it sucks). If the overall state of the economy worries you, what can you do about it? Realistically, the answer appears to be nothing, but that’s not quite true. For one thing you can exercise your right to vote and help to change the balance of power in Congress and the Senate. Better still, you can improve your own little corner of the economy. If you’re struggling financially, you can find ways to cut expenses or earn more money – get a new job or start your own business. I’m not saying the solutions will be easy, but they are real options. You don’t have to do nothing and just sit around worrying. Here are the four steps to take:

1. Identify the things that are worrying you.
2. Decide which of them are beyond your control and see if there are any small steps you can take to improve your lot within the boundaries of the bigger situation.
3. If not, accept that there’s nothing you can do, stop worrying and get on with other aspects of your life where you can influence the outcome.
4. If the worrisome situation is within your control, take whatever action is necessary to fix it.

So what has all that got to do with self belief and confidence? The answer is that you have to believe in yourself, and have faith and confidence in your ability, to take the action needed. Otherwise you’ll procrastinate and do nothing, and the source of your worry will remain intact.

So there’s another huge benefit to building confidence and belief in yourself: It greatly diminishes worry and anxiety. And that’s another reason I’ve written a book about it. The book has reached final manuscript stage and now has a title: Life Beyond Self Belief: 12 Keys to Building Unshakeable Self Belief and Rock-Solid Confidence. It will be available soon, so keep watching this space.

In the meantime, if you need to do something about the worries in your life, think about buying a copy of Say Yes to Less Stress. Just click on the book image on this page to find out more. Until the next time…

You look along the bank and see a man sitting at a desk on which sits a brass plaque bearing his name. He waves you over and says, “I’m a creek jumping expert. I can show you a foolproof method that will guarantee you can leap across that creek without falling in. Millions of people have used this method successfully and jumped fast-flowing creeks all over the world. My credentials are impeccable. I have letters after my name. I’m a DCJ, which stand for Doctor of Creek Jumping. For a modest sum of money, I’ll show you my method, which carries a money back guarantee.”

You want to get across the creek so you pay the man and he describes his method. You believe his credentials and the impressive testimonials he has from creek-jumpers all over the world, but you still can’t make the jump. Why not? Because you don’t have enough self-confidence to believe that you can make it across without falling in. So, despite having a proven, foolproof method at your disposal, you can’t continue your journey using that route.

There are men and women all over the world sitting behind desks telling you they have foolproof methods that will enable you to realize your dreams. But all the proven methods in the world will be useless to you unless you believe in yourself and have the self-confidence to act on that belief. If you’re in that situation, the only method that makes sense is one that helps you build unshakeable self-confidence and rock-solid self-belief.

And that’s why I’m working on a book about… guess what… how to build confidence and self-belief. The urge to create such a book started when I discovered that the Law of Attraction didn’t always work for me, no matter how diligently I applied methods such as those Lynn Grabhorn advocates in her wonderful book, Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting. I needed to find out why LOA was only working spasmodically and I discovered that it never worked when I lacked the self-confidence to take the next big step needed to move me toward a particular goal.

So now I believe that confidence and self-belief have to come before methods and techniques. And here’s where I get hoisted on my own analogy – the book I’m working on advocates a series of methods and techniques for acquiring confidence and self-belief. Ah, well… I never did claim to be perfect.

Watch this space.

I continue to welcome your comments on Lynn and her work, but I have to take a different direction with my own postings. I hope you’ll join me on this new journey, which will begin shortly.

Before I take a vacation from the topic of Lynn’s work, I’d like to post a comment submitted by someone signed in as MKM. I know nothing more about this contributor than his or her email, which I won’t publish without permission. I thought long and hard about publishing this contribution, because I disagree with many of the opinions expressed about Lynn and I don’t like the tone that comes across in parts of what MKM says. But I believe passionately in free speech and that anyone who writes a blog should honor that right, providing a comment isn’t overtly offensive or abusive. Here’s what MKM said, reproduced with no editing:

I had “Excuse me” foisted on me by one person after another, only to watch the reality that life isn’t all a box of chocolates but a mixture of good and bad and random chance that you have no control over mixed with what you can control slowly dawn on them (basic logic we’re all born with but which we have to intentionally manipulate by throwing money after books and seminars).

The reason Lynn Grabhorn lost her mind is simple and two fold. First, I hear the people who claim to be Christians say that it was because “demons” got her, much like Lynn herself claimed. Which is like watching the two characters from Dumb and Dumber have a duel. There aren’t any little green monsters or invisible men in the sky/shamanistic animals/blah blah nonsense. What happens psychologically to a person who convinces themselves that there are “others” manipulating them is simple – schizophrenia. Cause and effect, anyone?

Lynn’s second problem should be obvious, but then it seems when people spend this much time trying to subjugate their original common sense nothing remains simple or obvious… She wrote a book that not only had the happy go lucky manifest the happy stuff but conversely claimed that anyone who experienced anything bad was “co-creating” it and to blame. So what happened to the guru herself when bad stuff started happening to her? Where could she put the huge burden of self-inflicted blame that she had created with her highly publicized philosophy? She couldn’t slough her misfortunes off to chance or tell herself or anyone around her that she was a good person who was experiencing one of the myriad random happenstances of life. No, she had to “admit” to herself and to everyone around her that she was the biggest failure of all. Try topping off your physical illness, which is already dragging your immune system down, with that kind of mental and emotional drain – that YOU yourself created with your self “help” feel good sell more books drivel.

Please feel free to respond to this posting as you wish. MKM, I thank you for taking the time to express your views. Here are my final words on this topic for now:

I’m very happy that people are communicating through the blog and offering to help each other. Many of you have raised similar issues, so before I move off the subject of Lynn’s work for now, I thought it might be helpful to recap a few of my personal beliefs about making her philosophy work. I would urge anyone who’s serious about using what Lynn taught to consider the following:

Keep reading Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting until you’re confident that you really understand its relevance to your life and it has become like second nature to think that way.

Practice makes perfect, but if you practice diligently and Lynn’s philosophy doesn’t work, this may not be the right route for you to take.

Buy the follow up book, The Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting Playbook, in which Lynn took the concepts from Excuse Me and transformed them into a complete workbook for self-empowerment.

Don’t try to “escape” negative thoughts – it’s impossible. If someone says, “Don’t think of an elephant,” what’s the first thing you think of? If you try to block out negative thoughts that will be what you focus on. Just accept that they will arise and then use Lynn’s “flip” technique to turn them back into a positive thoughts.

Don’t eliminate any of your wants because they seem overwhelmingly large. Right now, they may be too big to achieve all at once, but that doesn’t mean you can’t work toward them one step at a time. The greatest truism ever stated is that every journey begins with the first step.

As for the last two books Lynn wrote, depicting her so-called “dark side,” I’m taking the coward’s way out. I’m just not ready to read them yet. I haven’t explored Excuse Me deeply enough to want a diversion into a new train of thought. When I’m ready, I’ll re-open this topic on the blog and be completely honest about my feelings about those final two books.

Please continue to communicate with each other about Lynn’s work and your feelings about her. I will post any comments that don’t offend. I thank you all for contributing to the dialogue about Lynn, who is someone I regard as a very important and influential author.

I wish you happiness and peace of mind.